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Etiquette
Is it OK to send an invitation by text or WhatsApp?
Short answer: yes, if it feels personal. Here is how to send a digital invitation that feels as thoughtful as a card in the mail, and the few cases where paper still makes sense.
Yes, digital invitations are now normal
Most people keep their life on their phone: their calendar, their maps, their conversations. An invitation that arrives where they already are, opens in a second and lets them reply in a tap is often more considerate than a card that sits on a counter. What guests dislike isn’t digital; it’s impersonal: a flyer forwarded to a big group with no message.
How to make it feel personal
- Write to each guest (or each family) by name, with a sentence of your own above the link.
- Choose a real design, not a screenshot of a template: the opening is the moment of the card being unsealed.
- Put your own words and photo on it.
- Send it at a calm moment and answer the replies that come back.
When paper still matters
- Grandparents or relatives who don’t use a smartphone: print the invitation, or call them and send the link to someone who will show them.
- Very formal events where tradition is the point: you can send a few paper cards and the link to everyone else.
- A keepsake: many couples print one copy for themselves.
Reminders without being pushy
Send one reminder, a week before the RSVP deadline, only to those who haven’t replied. Keep it light:
Hi Jess! Just checking you saw our invitation 💛 We’d love to know by Friday if you can come. It’s one tap at the bottom.
The big day is next week! Everything is on the invitation: the time, the map and the programme. See you there 🎉
Groups or one by one?
One by one (or one per family) gets more replies: it feels personal and nobody is lost in a busy group chat. A group works well for a team or a class, as long as the message says clearly who is invited.
See it on a real invitation
Questions
Is it rude to send a wedding invitation by text?
Not when it comes with a personal message and a real invitation. It is rude to forward a picture to a big group without a word.
Should I also mail paper invitations?
Only where it matters to someone: a grandparent, a formal family tradition. Most couples send the link to everyone and print a handful.
How do I know who has replied?
On Jovela every reply arrives in your space as it comes in, so you can send a gentle reminder to those who haven’t answered.